I sketched that picture of the pregnant lady to the left. If you are offended, you may leave now. This is my website and the nude body is beautiful and NOT pornographic in nature. NOW here is more food for thought...
I finally recognized that I had to love me not just some of the time, but ALL of the time. I saw in my patterns I was fed up with others expecting love of me every day and identified it as a neediness that pretty much got on my nerves the majority of the time, mostly my cats really. At the same time I felt and knew I loved them all the while, but there was that feeling of being a man of poverty at the root of why their energetic requesting of my love would evoke and I finally got that it was that I didn't look after my own needs therefor I felt like I had nothing to give
One of the needs I did not acknowledge was the basic human need for one another. This need might be mistaken as not self love but a dependency based love, but in truth it is just a basic and universal human need to be loved and to be in the company of each other on a regular basis. So in that way, it is very self loving to allow ourselves that experience. It is utterly unnatural to force ourselves to be completely alone at all times. Having spent the vast majority of my life this way I can say for sure this is the life of a wounded child who has not given themselves the chance to trust their inner adult. This trust, which I have built and am still building, is built simply by being a good parent to one's self. To nurture and care for and recognize your basic needs. I won't sit here and give people a list of their needs I will simply empower you with my recognition of what created the awakening in me. It was a long process for me but the essence of it can be gotten I think far faster than it took me, having few resources to aid in these recognitions, but the premise is deceptively simple.
The first thing that must become is the full presence with yourself. You must stop hiding from yourself. So become present, so present that even your self judgements become something you can observe rather than identify with. So Presence therefore is silence. It is an unadulterated distance from identification and complete listening. So what are you listening for? Essentially you are becoming silent so that you can simply acknowledge the innocence of your Being. Just Be with YOU. With in this space you will begin to feel a little uncomfortable at times and this discomfort is your human-ness speaking to you about it's needs. It is telling you how you must love you.
If you feel lonely you can recognize a need there. Depending on the way it expresses to you it may be asking for the company of others or it may simply be asking for you own attention and love directly. You may go through a healing simply by looking in the mirror and acknowledging that you deserve love, or by saying I love you in the midst of your vulnerable state. Yes we need each other to make the full healing, but work with where you are. If you are alone all you need to ask yourself is one simple question, or a variation of it. "How can I be most loving to myself right now? How can I begin to love and care for myself now? What can I do, be or think to begin to BE love more now?" You just want to start acknowledging that you have needs, as a human being, and stand back and acknowledge what feels the most loving in the moment. You may find yourself serving someone else because that has the most life giving feeling to it. And in that moment, loving someone else is the most loving thing you can do for YOU.
It is a moment to moment awareness.
When you need to be alone, take the time out. You may begin to require that your humanness Explain WHY it is wanting this, but eventually you will let this go because sometimes you will not find the words until much later. If you have decided to love you then you will BE LOVE by doing the most loving thing, which is the thing that feels most loving and life giving in each moment. I used to get a little annoyed with the constant care my human body needs to be fulfilled. But now I feel joy in serving my body and being. This is all a dance and love is not just needed some of the time, it is the very essence of what keeps everything going and living and thriving. So YES, you are needed. Your love is needed. And the first place it must exist is in your own Body and energy. Loving the indescribable gift that you are is the beginning of a life long love affair I once heard someone say, and even though I am still young and can say that I have recognized this to be an essential truth.
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