Often times we expect things of others but don't realize it. As a result we react when we don't receive it, but its opposite. If we expect praise and recognition but instead all we get is insults and mockery, and we feel we NEED that praise to feel good, yeah we are going to feel hurt. But this is reactive living. I feel it is such a blessing to notice my re-actions and to find and dislodge the triggers. Because until I do, I am as good as a remote control dummy, and any intelligent person would catch onto my triggers and be able to use them to manipulate me. It's up to us to decide if we will live as purely reactive creations or conscious and responsive creators.
I will not highlight here what I am now working on but I will say this, we need to support each other. And though it is not fair to project our expectations onto each other, we'd all benefit from being a little more aware of how we could support each other, noticing when others feel hurt and caring enough to make a little effort not to continue to hurt each other.
At that note, it is all a gift that we be hurt because ultimately the repeat hurt will teach the "victim" or the reacting party that they are creating it all for themselves and it WILL be up to them to consciously recognize what is the belief that creates their emotional reaction. Because we cannot be certain that the thing we are reacting to will ever change. And even if it does, it will eventually take on another guise, another form, another persona. Because the lesson is that change must happen within for it to truly change. If we think we are a victim and people are just mean, it doesn't matter if our spouse starts being nice, if we hold to that belief others will still reflect it back to us, and we will go on playing victim to a perceived "mean world".
The blessing is identifying the belief that causes unwanted and unpleasant reactions and being willing to end our reactive-ness by no longer playing the victim and just finding a better way of perceiving things. We can do this in the midst of the experience or in retrospect.
All things creative.